Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Fun Grandparents vs Strict Mummy

This is the usual dilemma whenever we are back at my parents' or when they visits us.

When I said No.. they say Yes...

When I said Sleep... they say Play...

I said highchairs for mealtimes... they let her walk everywhere...

I said 'No icecream'... they say 'A little bit won't do any harm'...

When I said 'Time to wake up from day nap'... they say 'Let her sleep as long as she want'...

Baby car seat is for babies/toddlers... they let her sit on their laps during car rides...

It worries me half of the time that I would need to mend all the damages done. Damages as in the aspect of discipline and routine. It takes 1 day to learn the good stuffs but 1 minute to master the bad ones.

But again, I told myself, so what if it changes her routine a bit? What if they insisted her to play when it is time to nap/sleep? It is nothing I should worry about. Even if they give in to her request for ice cream or not sitting in the car seat, I should have more faith in myself, Isabelle and God. All I need to do is just tune her back to her usual routine and as for discipline, it is totally fine to be a fun mummy (and not a prison warden) once a blue moon. If my way of upbringing Isabelle is in the right track, I should not even worry at all.

After all, it is the job of grandparents to pamper the offspring of their children and it is all done in the name of love.

3 comments:

I'm a full-time mummy said...

Sigh.... sometimes not all things that grandparents teach are good... I'm still trying to unteach Ben from the dog tah-tah thingy ok?

And MIL always go 'Let him cry, don't tend to him so fast else you all pamper him too much'...

Yeah.. guess who went running to Ben when he purposely knocked his head on the staircase (wants ppl attention). Definitely not me...

MieVee @ MummysReviews.com said...

Grandparents are not accountable for the kids while parents are, so they tend to pamper while we discipline. It is the case for most families.

However, I'm quite an assertive person, so definitely no walking around during meals and carseat is compulsory (safety first). :)

Happy Mummy said...

Hi MieVee,
Yes, grandparents are somehow made to pamper and parents to discipline. I am a strict parent too but in my situation, I give some space for my parents to do what grandparents are born to do. After all, I dont live with them, under one roof so once a blue moon, is ok for us. It would definitely be different case if we are living together. And my little girl goes back to her routine easily with no struggle. Thank God for that ! :)

Have a good weekend!